I am a qualified and accredited coach who is passionate about working with women who are going through big life transitions such as divorce, finding their life purpose, or adjusting to becoming a new parent, for example. The women I work with may also experience a low sense of worth, self-love and/or self - compassion, which often results in them holding themselves back when it comes to achieving their goals.
WHOLE was born from my own personal process and experience of undervaluing and never truly believing in myself, which led to me holding myself back.
My childhood was extremely turbulent, full of chaos and toxicity. The various events that happened in my childhood, including my father leaving before I was born, growing up with an abusive step-father and then being placed in foster care - all before the age of 9, confirmed, in my mind, that I was the problem.
I didn’t even realise the foundation was already laid, the thoughts already ingrained - I WAS NOT ENOUGH. These limiting beliefs and stories would haunt me into my twenties and early thirties. I hated who I was, how I looked, how I felt … I hated everything about myself, I wanted to be anyone else but me. The self loathing was paralysing but I hid it so well, even from myself.
My lack of self awareness meant that I attracted multiple toxic romantic relationships. My own low-self worth and love meant that I was treated like I was an option, which only made the negative voice in my mind stronger. It confirmed what I had told myself my entire life; so I surrendered to it and believed it. By this point, I had even become physically ill because of the negative inner talk (and on top of this lyme disease). I was totally out of alignment, that was, or so I thought, until I met the father of my children.
I thought that I had found the one, the person who would make me happy, make me feel the love I had never felt for myself. I thought this was it but I was so very wrong. He broke my heart multiple times, it was total agony but playing the victim was no longer an option. It wasn’t just about me anymore, I now had our two beautiful boys to take care of, and giving them the ability I never had, was, and is, my biggest priority. This was when something inside me ignited, something happened … I woke up, I could finally see how my lack of self-love and worth had paralyzed me. It was time to do something about it.
I have spent the past 6 years choosing to transform my life, learning to love myself, to realise my worth, to see my light, my love. I have invested in myself endlessly from weekly therapy, to coaching, to spiritual retreats, courses and reading. I have taken myself from a place of self-loathing to self-love, from unworthy and not feeling enough, to abundance and joy.
From being purposeless to full of purpose, to feeling WHOLE!
It is a choice that I make everyday, even on the days when I don’t want to, because my biggest realisation has been that no one is coming to save me, I have to be the one to save myself and create the life I know I am worthy of having - one full of happiness, purpose and abundance. The alternative simply isn’t an option for me anymore.
If you are ready to choose you, I would love to support you in your journey!
Love Alexandra x
Before giving birth to my two beautiful children, I enjoyed a career as a secondary school teacher, also responsible for the pastoral care, or wellbeing, of the pupils. It was shortly after this, during my long term maternity leave, that I discovered & completed courses in Mindfulness and Ayurveda, diving into my own both to help with overcome the undiagnosed Lyme Disease that was greatly impacting my health, as well as the underlining childhood trauma that I was unaware was totally consuming me.
It was thanks to my impactful role as the Emotional Wellbeing & Mental Health Leader for a group of international schools, that I discovered my love and passion for coaching. I first qualified with the British School of Coaching, obtaining a certificate in Effective Coaching and Mentoring, then later as an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach with IIN. Most recently, I have qualified as a Life Purpose Coach through DCI. I have hundreds of recorded coaching hours and success stories of how I have helped people like you to meet their goals and create a life they love.
